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My Experience in the Chicago Fire, October 8th, 1871.
[Here, in November 2011, I'm posting these notes to my blog. Back in December of 1999 I transcribed them from typewritten pages to a word processor computer-document format. Apparently my mother, Ruth Goodhue Trillich, transcribed these notes as part of a typing exercise in 1937-38 when she was about 16 years old and the fire was 66 years in the past. I hope to relocate the typewritten pages and photograph them at some point, and I have no idea where the original (likely hand-written) notes are from Zorah Danforth Patrick (or was that Zorah Patrick Danforth?). The letter was addressed to Ruth and Dan Killips, who were mother-and-son; Ruth ("Dado") Danforth Killips was sister to my grandmother Cordelia ("Monnie") Danforth Goodhue and to Gertrude ("Muzzie") Danforth ? -- Will Trillich]
Dear Ruth and Dan,
On Sunday evening, October 8th, 1871, my room-mate and I were preparing our lessons for the next day. His name was Eugene Garvin. We two occupied only one bed. Garvin was a fine fellow and a good room-mate. He had no bad habits as far as I knew. We were very congenial, and no two students got along together any more happily than we two. There were five students boarding there in the house, three of them medical, two of them law students. Our landlady was Mrs. Johnson. She had been a widow, and had married Johnson, it seemed, just to have somebody around the house to help at odd jobs. At any rate, he did not seem to be of any importance about the house.
Mrs. Johnson had a beautiful daughter, the wife of Wirt Dexter, one of the prominent attorneys of the city at that time. He lived at 18th, and Prairie Ave, then the heart of the Gold Coast of the time. The daughter, had a fine equipage, coachman, silver mounted harness, beautiful team of horses, would drive over to the north side occasionally, in the street, and lend dignity to our humble quarters, by waiting with this equipage until Mrs. Dexter was ready to depart.
On this Sunday night the wind was blowing a gale from the South West. Garvin and I were ready to go to bed. On looking out of our south window, we saw a bright light, as from a burning building, way off to the southwest, three or four miles away. In a wooden city as Chicago then was, fires were very common, and we thought nothing of what we had seen, expecting the fire to be cared for by the firemen. So we went to bed and to sleep. In the meantime, the wind had not abated, but was growing more violent hourly. About three or four o’clock in the morning, Mrs. Johnson called up the stairs, telling us to get up, that the city was burning. Going out of doors, we found it was not yet daylight. The air was as full of sparks as it ever is of snow flakes in a snow storm. The other boys wanted to see the fire, but I stayed at home to protect the place. I suppose they were gone an hour. Then they all came home, and I thought it was my turn to see the fire.
Erie Street is only a block or two north of the river. I crossed Rush Street Bridge, which was crowded with refugees, trying to escape the fire which was behind them. I saw the old court house burn down, and The Tribune “fire proof” building, at Dearborn and Madison Streets, burn as if it had been kindling wood. The headquarters of the fire department was in the old court house and fires were announced by tapping with certain tape on a big bell that could be heard all over the city. That bell melted and ran down through the burning building, and was found later in the debris.
Then I went back home. But once there, I was not satisfied with what I had seen, so I went back again. Trying to cross Rush Street Bridge again, I found it crowded full of people fleeing from the fire, and a big dray horse cam trotting through the crowd with a great shaft on one side only, trotting through the crowd of people with the shaft swaying hear and there to the great danger of the fleeing people. I decided that it was too dangerous to attempt to cross there. Then I thought to try the tunnel, which had been made the year before across the river, to avoid the delay to vehicles when the bridge was opened for boats to pass through. This tunnel was at LaSalle Street, arriving there, I found it nearly empty, as dark as Egypt, for the gas works had already been burned, and were out of commission. I met only a few persons and they would say “Keep to the right,” when they would hear my feet on the cement. Arriving, finally at the south end of the tunnel, I found buildings there on fire, so there was nothing to do but go back to the north side. I made my way to the north entrance, to find that while I had been in the tunnel, the fire had jumped across the river, and the buildings on both sides of LaSalle Street for more than a block, were burning fiercely. So, in order to escape from the danger of being trapped in the tunnel, with the danger of suffocation from smoke that was going through the tunnel, I had to take my chances of beating the fire, which was racing along the street ahead of me, at a rate faster than a person can comfortably walk. In my race to get ahead of the fire, it was here that my eyebrows were burned off. The wooden blocks with which the streets were paved, burned up, and liberated sand and gravel that had separated the blocks. A high wind blew it into my face with the force of bullets. You know I ran as fast as my legs would carry me, until I got ahead of the fire. Then I went back to my boarding house, where I found the boys preparing to move on, because by that time we knew that our house with all the others in the neighborhood, were doomed. Mrs. Johnson had disappeared, how or when we did not know. Each boy had his trunk. In addition, Mrs. Johnson had a trunk of silver, left over, I suppose, from more prosperous times. We boys decided to care for that trunk, and from them until we landed in Lincoln Park, we carried it along with us, until we finally delivered it unharmed, at her son-in-law’s house. She and the whole household, were so excited they forgot to thank us for all the trouble we had had with that trunk.
We had decided to move on, but we did not know where to go. We knew that south of where the Newberry Library now is, there was a vacant square. I believe it is called LaFayette Park. It was about a mile from our house. There were six trunks, and only five men to do the work of moving them. They were pretty full of large and heavy books, too large and too heavy for one man to handle, so two men would carry a trunk a hundred yards or so, then one man would carry another trunk. In this way, we got all the six trunks to LaFayette Park, only to find upon arriving there, that many other people had the same idea, and had deposited their household goods, and we found it full of furniture, and the precious things they were trying to save. There was hardly room for our trunks, the place being occupied by furniture, bedding, carpets, etc.. from the surrounding houses. It seemed a secure retreat until we discovered that the houses on the street took fire one after the other, that all those things in the park there, were combustible, and were like kindling to start more fires. That stuff all got on fire, and the heat and smoke together, of the burning houses that surrounded the park, forced us to move on. But where would we go? There was no place except Lincoln Park, and that was at least two miles, and those trunks, to keep ahead of the advancing fire. As I told you, there were six trunks and five boys and we carried them in the way mentioned until we got within about a hundred yards of the park, when an express man came along, and kindly let us put out trunks in his wagon, and dump them on the ground in the park. We were all utterly exhausted, and I know I was going to leave my trunk and let it burn up, because I felt I could go no further.
The weather was warm as June, and we took possession of a little boat house that we found in the park, where we lay on the floor, and got what sleep we could in the night. That day, Monday, finally passed, I do not remember how we spent that night in the Lincoln Park boat house, and were fortunate to have a roof over our heads for in the evening there was a gentle rain, which, however, stopped sometime in the night. The next morning, Tuesday, we were pretty hungry, having eaten nothing during Monday. Where would we find a restaurant! Everything between us and what had been the city was destroyed. There we were, five boys, started out to walk five miles, for breakfast. It was five miles from Lincoln Park to Harrison Street, and we marched all that way, over the debris of the destroyed buildings, before we could find a place open for business. There we got breakfast, but what it was, I do not remember. But I am sure that Mrs. Keating did not bring it to my room. The way down there was not unobstructed, and we had to make many detours, and climb over many piles of rubbish, before we could get there.
On the way there were many stakes, with signs attached, that told us such and such firms would be found somewhere in temporary quarters, ready to do business very soon. After we had breakfast, we had to walk back the five miles to Lincoln Park, to care for our trunks.
My people lived, at that time, at Abingdon, Ills. The railroad stations, had all been burned, and I found a O.B.&Q. train an a sidetrack on sixteenth street, and I got home without further incident.
My college building had been burned. Other colleges opened their doors to the homeless Rush students. After staying at home a week or two I received notice that lectures would be resumed at the county hospital, then at 18th and Arnold Streets. At the county Hospital, there was an amphitheater, for clinics, where we heard lectures, until graduation. This was my last year at Rush, and Garvins’. He went out to Sycamore, Ills, to practice, and I heard that he contracted drinking habits, and died in the road, having been thrown out of his buggy.
We (almost) got scalped on Tuesday…
There was a city-block-sized rock that zipped past us yesterday after 5pm! It was really close — closer to us than the moon is, and that’s pretty close. If it had collided with us we’d be seeing Hollywood disaster movie effects all over the place…
My favorite part of the whole ‘ordeal’ is a subtitle from an article by the Christian Science Monitor:
“Asteroid 2005 YU55, a giant rock floating through space, looks like a giant rock floating through space, reports one astronomer, who observed the giant rock as it floated through space past the Earth on Tuesday.”
Delightful!
Tact Filter: in or out?
Google “tact filter” and you’ll come to a a page at MIT that was originally posted in 1996. It’s a metaphor — and a very useful one — for the differences between the way “normal folks” apply tact and the way “nerds” apply tact.
Most folks edit before they say something, to minimize the chances of hurting someone’s feelings. Nerds expect and respect blunt and frank discussion instead, and they edit what they hear as it comes in.
So most folks edit before transmitting, and nerds edit after receiving. Pretty neat idea.
We’ll be wishing for more of this rain when July and August are here :(
The warnings below are for our area here in Southwestern Indiana, from April 2011: rain, flooding, more rain, more flooding, even more rain, and even more flooding. Enough with the rain! (Why couldn’t it have been snow?)
The ironic bit is, when July and August roll around, we’ll be wishing we could have some of this rain back…
So for posterity, these warnings below are taken from Accuweather.com as of 9:30am CDT on 30-April-2011:
in effect until Sunday, May 1, 9:00 AM
THE NATIONAL WEATHER SERVICE IN PADUCAH HAS ISSUED A
* FLOOD WARNING FOR… ALL COUNTIES IN SOUTHEAST MISSOURI…SOUTHERN ILLINOIS… SOUTHWEST INDIANA…AND WESTERN KENTUCKY…
* UNTIL 900 AM CDT SUNDAY.
* DESPITE RECENT HEAVY RAINS HAVING DEPARTED…HISTORIC FLOODING IS WIDESPREAD AND CONTINUES…SO THE FLOOD WARNING HAS BEEN REISSUED AND EXTENDED THROUGH SUNDAY MORNING.
MANY RIVERS AND STREAMS HAVE OR WILL CONTINUE TO CREST THIS WEEKEND. MANY AREAS ARE AND WILL REMAIN FLOODED…EVEN WITH THE DRY WEATHER FORECAST THROUGH SATURDAY. THIS INCLUDES ROADS THAT ARE IMPASSABLE DUE TO HIGH WATER. EARTHEN LEVEES AND DAMS WILL REMAIN STRESSED ACROSS THE AREA. MANY HOMES IMPACTED BY THE FLOOD WATERS WILL STILL REMAIN FLOODED.
IN ADDITION…MORE RAINFALL WILL ENTER THE FORECAST LATE THIS WEEKEND. ANOTHER 1 TO 3 INCHES IS POSSIBLE IN THE SATURDAY NIGHT THROUGH MONDAY TIME FRAME. IF THIS DOES NOT CAUSE ADDITIONAL FLOODING…IT WILL AT LEAST SLOW THE RECESSION OF CRESTS AND HIGH WATERS INTO EARLY NEXT WEEK.
PRECAUTIONARY/PREPAREDNESS ACTIONS…
BE ESPECIALLY CAUTIOUS AT NIGHT WHEN IT IS HARDER TO RECOGNIZE THE DANGERS OF FLOODING. IF FLOODING IS OBSERVED…ACT QUICKLY. MOVE UP TO HIGHER GROUND TO ESCAPE FLOOD WATERS. DO NOT STAY IN AREAS SUBJECT TO FLOODING WHEN WATER BEGINS RISING.
DO NOT DRIVE YOUR VEHICLE INTO AREAS WHERE THE WATER COVERS THE ROADWAY. THE WATER DEPTH MAY BE TOO GREAT TO ALLOW YOUR CAR TO CROSS SAFELY. MOVE TO HIGHER GROUND.
&&
in effect until Monday, May 9, 5:00 AM
THE FLOOD WARNING CONTINUES FOR THE OHIO RIVER AT NEWBURGH DAM. * UNTIL MONDAY MAY 09. * AT 9 PM FRIDAY THE STAGE WAS 49.0 FEET. * FLOOD STAGE IS 38.0 FEET. * MODERATE FLOODING IS OCCURRING AND MODERATE FLOODING IS FORECAST. * FORECAST…THE RIVER WILL CONTINUE RISING TO NEAR 49.1 FEET BY SATURDAY MORNING. * IMPACT…AT 48.0 FEET…WATER COMES OVER PART OF IN 66 ABOUT 1 MILE DOWNSTREAM FROM THE LOCK AND DAM.
in effect until Sunday, May 8, 1:45 PM
THE FLOOD WARNING CONTINUES FOR THE OHIO RIVER AT EVANSVILLE. * UNTIL SUNDAY MAY 08. * AT 9 PM FRIDAY THE STAGE WAS 46.4 FEET. * FLOOD STAGE IS 42.0 FEET. * MINOR FLOODING IS OCCURRING AND MINOR FLOODING IS FORECAST. * FORECAST…THE RIVER IS CRESTING AT THIS TIME AND WILL MAINTAIN THIS LEVEL UNTIL EARLY MONDAY MORNING. * IMPACT…AT 45.0 FEET…MANY COUNTY ROADS ARE FLOODED AND SOME ARE IMPASSABLE.
in effect until Monday, May 2, 7:00 PM
…FLASH FLOOD WATCH REMAINS IN EFFECT FROM THIS EVENING THROUGH MONDAY EVENING…
THE FLASH FLOOD WATCH CONTINUES FOR
* ALL OF SOUTHEAST MISSOURI…SOUTHERN ILLINOIS…SOUTHWEST INDIANA AND WESTERN KENTUCKY…
* FROM THIS EVENING THROUGH MONDAY EVENING.
* RAINFALL TONIGHT THROUGH MONDAY IS FORECAST TO RANGE FROM 1 TO 2 INCHES ALONG AND NORTH OF THE I-64 CORRIDOR…TO AS HIGH AS 3 TO 4 INCHES ACROSS PORTIONS OF SOUTHEAST MISSOURI AND WESTERN KENTUCKY.
* GIVEN THE ONGOING WIDESPREAD AND HIGH IMPACT FLOODING ACROSS MUCH OF THE AREA…ADDITIONAL RAINFALL OF THIS MAGNITUDE WILL ONLY CAUSE FLOODING TO RETURN…OR WORSEN IN THOSE AREAS ALREADY IMPACTED.
* THE AREA OF GREATEST CONCERN WITH THIS UPCOMING EVENT…WITH RESPECT TO AREAL FLOODING AND FLASH FLOODING…IS SOUTHEAST MISSOURI…THE SOUTHERN TIP OF ILLINOIS AND MUCH OF WESTERN KENTUCKY…OR GENERALLY SOUTH OF A LINE FROM POPLAR BLUFF MISSOURI TO VIENNA ILLINOIS TO OWENSBORO KENTUCKY.
PLEASE REFER TO THE LATEST FLOOD WARNINGS AND STATEMENTS FOR THE LATEST WITH RESPECT TO ONGOING AREAL AND RIVER FLOODING. THIS CONTINUES TO BE A DANGEROUS SITUATION.
WE URGE RESIDENTS TO CONTINUE TO ACT IN ACCORDANCE WITH LOCAL OFFICIALS AND THEIR REQUESTS TO TAKE ACTION FOR THE PROTECTION OF LIFE AND PROPERTY. NEVER TRY TO CROSS A WATER COVERED ROAD. YOU ARE PUTTING YOUR LIFE AT RISK. KEEP CHILDREN SAFE…AND AWAY FROM STORM DRAINAGE SYSTEMS AND OTHER HIGH WATER AREAS.
PRECAUTIONARY/PREPAREDNESS ACTIONS…
A FLASH FLOOD WATCH MEANS THAT CONDITIONS MAY DEVELOP THAT LEAD TO FLASH FLOODING. FLASH FLOODING IS A VERY DANGEROUS SITUATION.
YOU SHOULD MONITOR LATER FORECASTS AND BE PREPARED TO TAKE ACTION SHOULD FLASH FLOOD WARNINGS BE ISSUED.
&&
in effect until Saturday, Apr 30, 6:00 PM
…LAKE WIND ADVISORY IN EFFECT FROM 9 AM THIS MORNING TO 6 PM CDT THIS EVENING…
THE NATIONAL WEATHER SERVICE IN PADUCAH HAS ISSUED A LAKE WIND ADVISORY…WHICH IS IN EFFECT FROM 9 AM THIS MORNING TO 6 PM CDT THIS EVENING.
* AN APPROACHING FRONTAL SYSTEM WILL INCREASE THE PRESSURE GRADIENT AND RESULT IN STRONG AND GUSTY WINDS TODAY. SOUTHERLY WINDS WILL INCREASE THROUGH THE MORNING…BECOMING GUSTY BY LATE MORNING AND AFTERNOON. THE GUSTY WINDS WILL LET UP BY EVENING.
* SUSTAINED SOUTHERLY WINDS OF 15 TO 25 MPH WITH OCCASIONAL GUSTS OF 30 TO 35 MPH ARE EXPECTED BY LATE MORNING INTO THE AFTERNOON.
* ANYONE PLANNING TO BE OUT ON AREA WATERWAYS TODAY SHOULD EXERCISE CAUTION AND PREPARE FOR ROUGH WAVE CONDITIONS… ESPECIALLY THOSE OPERATING SMALL WATER CRAFT.
PRECAUTIONARY/PREPAREDNESS ACTIONS…
A LAKE WIND ADVISORY INDICATES THAT WINDS WILL CAUSE ROUGH CHOP ON AREA LAKES. SMALL BOATS WILL BE ESPECIALLY PRONE TO CAPSIZING.
Atlas Shrugged, Part 1: Non-Contradiction
Ayn Rand’s magnum opus has finally made it to the big screen — or at least the first part has. With the book weighing in at more than 1,000 pages it’s a challenge to put a story of that magnitude into a 2-hour video. The production team has opted to break the book up into chunks (one for each of the three sections of the original manuscript) so that it’s more manageable, but even so there’s still an awful lot of meat they tried to cram into a short movie.
Robert Winchell, DC
Six-foot-three, 280 pounds (maybe a little more, at times). As a Chiropractor this guy could sling you around the table like a wet dishrag. He’d put some oil on his elbow and then run that elbow up one side of my spine and down the other — I called it the “Elbow Grease” treatment. Can’t say it was pleasant, but it sure got the circulation and mojo working. I’d often walk out of my appointments with lots more energy and enthusiasm than I had when I went in. I usually walked taller and straighter, too.
That was just one of many approaches he had. He had the “G5″ which was a massager/percusser that could work magic unlike any trinkets you’d find at home (hmm, I wonder what’s going to happen to that?). He had acupressure gizmos and myofascial methods and holistic recommendations and subluxation techniques… He was always learning new things and trying them out to see what was the most effective way of helping people. He’d often sneak in a new treatment or two, without telling the front office to bill for it.
One time I was suffering from an ongoing cough that I contracted in Georgia while working in the rain for a day. Cough, cough, cough. My throat was raw, my nerves were shot, I was fatigued beyond belief. No over-the-counter medicines could touch it. None of the doctor visits I went on had any effect… until I went to see Dr. Winchell. I’d been coughing, nearly non-stop, for months — and after visiting him it was gone in 36 hours.
So I’d go to see Dr. Winchell when I had bronchial issues or digestive issues — most folks would go if their back or neck was bothering them — I’d wind up going to see him for all kinds of odd soft-tissue scenarios… hearing, sinuses, etc… and he enjoyed that immensely. He could always “straighten me out”.
He had a wonderful sense of humor, and tore at life with big bites. His softball team won trophy after trophy, and in his younger days he set state records for track-and-field events. He had a great voice and enjoyed working with, and working for, people.
Boy will he be missed.
From http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/courierpress/obituary.aspx?n=robert-winchell&pid=146807361:
EVANSVILLE, Ind. — Dr. Robert “Bob” Winchell, 61, went to be with his Lord and Savior, on Tuesday, November 23, 2010, after a short courageous battle against pancreatic cancer.
Robert was preceded in death by his parents, Robert and Dorothy; and his three special dogs, Jasper, Nick, and Little Bit.
He is survived by his devoted wife and soul mate, Linda (Taylor) Winchell; sister, Terrie Martin (Randy); daughters, Cara Hoff (Jim), Karisa Burton (fiancé, Rickie Meyer) and Kelly Graves (Rich); grandchildren, James Hoff III, Savannah and Alden Burton and Zoe Leigh Graves and Baby Boy Graves, due in February; special cousins, Sherry Hoffman and Angela Sorenson; in-laws, Lisa and Brian Hester and Bill and Richi Taylor; many nieces and nephews; and a host of dear friends, colleagues, and neighbors.
The family would like to extend a special thank you to Jan Danks, Dr. John McCleary and Stephanie Groves for keeping the clinic running during his absence and helping with a myriad of matters to assist us.
Robert attended Fairlawn grade school and graduated from Harrison High School in 1967. He was Harrison’s first state champion, winning the shot put title, in 1967. He was on the starting five of the basketball team under Coach Frank Schwitz. He graduated from Indiana University where he claimed four Big Ten Championships in shot put. His back injury changed his career path to chiropractic. He then attended National Chiropractic College in Lombard, Ill. and graduated in 1977. He practiced for 33 years and loved every minute. He previously served as a board member of Evansville ARC and the PRC of Evansville. He was a Kentucky Colonel. He sponsored and played many years of softball, attaining Indiana Hall of Fame status in 1994. His teams won four national championships, dozens of state titles and many tournament wins. He also won gold in the Senior Olympics at age 51 for shot put.
He simply was the kindest, most generous sweet man anyone could know. He was truly loved by his family, friends and patients and will be dearly missed.
Portugal’s experiment
Portugal had a serious drug problem — and in 2001 they tried something unusual to solve it. Now, nine years later, there are some very interesting results.
- Their solution costs TONS less than the conventional approach — e.g. America’s vote-buying “War on Drugs”
- The Portugal decriminalization approach has reduced drug usage and drug-related violence
- They demonstrated how CONTROL doesn’t jibe with human nature, it just raises prices and changes the incentive structure
- A conclusion that’s not hard to draw, is, an ongoing War On Drugs is a great excuse to self-perpetuate without much evidence of any real gain
My favorite quote:
Judging by every metric, decriminalization in Portugal has been a resounding success.
Forty years later, the concern about drugs and drug problems is, if anything, magnified, intensified.
Seems like it’s easier to let people discourage themselves, than to try and force them at gunpoint. Weird.
Edgar Guest
I’ve just discovered Edgar Guest. Where has he been all these years?
It Couldn’t Be Done
Somebody said that it couldn’t be done,
But he with a chuckle replied
That “maybe it couldnt,” but he would be one
Who wouldn’t say so till he’d tried.
So he buckled right in with the trace of a grin
On his face. If he worried he hid it.
He started to sing as he tackled the thing
That couldn’t be done, and he did it.Somebody scoffed: “Oh, you’ll never do that;
At least no one ever has done it”;
But he took off his coat and he took off his hat,
And the first thing we knew he’d begun it.
With a lift of his chin and a bit of a grin,
Without any doubting or quiddit,
He started to sing as he tackled the thing
That couldn’t be done, and he did it.There are thousands to tell you it cannot be done,
There are thousands to prophesy failure;
There are thousands to point out to you one by one,
The dangers that wait to assail you.
But just buckle in with a bit of a grin,
Just take off your coat and go to it;
Just start in to sing as you tackle the thing
That “cannot be done,” and you’Il do it.
That’s just plain wonderful. Of all things, I saw an old, old episode of “All in the Family” today where Edith Bunker quoted Edgar Guest talking about failure coming from within — so I had to look him up. Delights!
Success and Failure
I do not think all failure’s undeserved,
And all success is merely someone’s luck;
Some men are down because they were unnerved,
And some are up because they kept their pluck.
Some men are down because they chose to shirk;
Some men are high because they did their work.I do not think that all the poor are good,
That riches are the uniform of shame;
The beggar might have conquered if he would,
And that he begs, the world is not to blame.
Misfortune is not all that comes to mar;
Most men, themselves, have shaped the things they are
Just one more, for good measure:
Equipment
Figure it out for yourself, my lad,
You’ve all that the greatest of men have had,
Two arms, two hands, two legs, two eyes,
And a brain to use if you would be wise.
With this equipment they all began,
So start for the top and say “I can.”Look them over, the wise and great,
They take their food from a common plate
And similar knives and forks they use,
With similar laces they tie their shoes,
The world considers them brave and smart.
But you’ve all they had when they made their start.You can triumph and come to skill,
You can be great if only you will,
You’re well equipped for what fight you choose,
You have legs and arms and a brain to use,
And the man who has risen, great deeds to do
Began his life with no more than you.You are the handicap you must face,
You are the one who must choose your place,
You must say where you want to go.
How much you will study the truth to know,
God has equipped you for life, But He
Lets you decide what you want to be.Courage must come from the soul within,
The man must furnish the will to win,
So figure it out for yourself, my lad,
You were born with all that the great have had,
With your equipment they all began.
Get hold of yourself, and say: “I can.”
How about that? Encourage self-sufficiency. It’s the original “American Way” which has long since been replaced with “Safety First” (and lots of government assistance).
The Incredible Bread Machine
Here’s one of the keystones to my high school curriculum. It’s The Incredible Bread Machine, a video by Karl Keating, Susan Love Brown, Patrea Post and Stuart Smith — inspired by Richard Grant’s epic poem of the same name. (An abbreviated rendition of the poem starts at 30:34 into the film — we would recite parts of the poem during graduation ceremonies, and for some reason I was chosen to portray The Lawyer.)
Here are some memorable quotes from the film:
- I shouldn’t be able to force you to finance something you don’t believe in — but if I don’t have that right, why is it legally/morally right for the government to have it?
- No one gets it if there ain’t none
- You don’t solve problems by violating people’s rights
- If the government didn’t have favors to sell, the consumer would be king
- Governments don’t produce anything, people produce things
During the follow-up, Milton Friedman lets loose some great insights, too:
- Social Security is presented as if it were an insurance scheme… what it really is is a combination of a very bad tax system with a very bad welfare program
- The law which would have the greatest value in curbing monopoly and promoting competition would be one which abolishes tariffs and enact free trade
- It’s a mystery how it’s better to be unemployed at $2.40 an hour, than being employed at $2.00 an hour
There are still some voices in the wilderness that understand what Mr. Friedman was trying to convey, but none as clearly nor as loudly as he did.
Munchkins and the choices they make
So there we were — a nine-year old, arms folded, brow scrunched up in anger and teeth clenched… and an eight-year-old, dealing out a little silent treatment and holding a grudge while digging up worms in the dirt. I didn’t even ask what the problem was, it wouldn’t have furthered anybody’s cause.
“You should see yourself,” I told the angry 9.y.o. “You’re packing lots of angry all over the place like someone owes you something.” I would have taken a picture of her just for fun, but I didn’t have a camera handy, so — next best thing — I laughed at her.
Her angry eyes got angrier and even moistened up a bit. She pointed at the silent 8.y.o. and said”Well she’s the one who…”
I interrupted her. “It doesn’t matter. I’m guessing you would rather be playing with her, and not all angry in a huff, right?” No need to put me in the middle or have me take sides, I’m not going to play that game today, this is something she needs to work out for herself.
“Yeah, but I didn’t do anything wrong. She’s the one who…”
I interrupted again: “Five minutes ago doesn’t matter. How would you prefer to be interacting with her five minutes from now?”
The angry 9.y.o. thought a bit, and her brow softened a bit. “I’d rather be playing with her but she won’t talk to me. I didn’t do any–”
“It doesn’t matter,” I said, “who did what or to whom. What does matter is you don’t want to be angry with her, you want to be playing with her, instead. In the past, do you remember that she apologized to you when you’d been fighting about something? Remember how quickly you both got over the anger? Why don’t you take a turn apologizing this time?” I suggested.
“I HAVEN’T DONE ANYTHING WRONG. She’s the one who should apologize…”
“So I can see you’re not going to try an apology. How about this: what if you just ACT like you’re not angry and maybe you two will start getting along? Imagine how you want things to be five minutes from now, and make that happen.”
The angry 9.y.o. didn’t think about this very long. Arms folded again, brow furrowed, eyes flashing. “She won’t talk to me!” The 8.y.o. sat in the dirt, digging up worms, still dealing out the silent treatment.
I thought I’d try to paint a simpler picture. “Okay,” I told the angry 9.y.o., “How about this: If you just now came outside and saw her digging up worms for the first time, what would you do?”
“I’d ask if I could join her,” said the 9.y.o. with a lot less anger than before.
I then whispered to her: “Try that.”
Five minutes later they were playing in the leaf pile as if nothing had ever been wrong.
So here I’ve got an idea. The evening before, the 9.y.o. mentioned that she is realizing that her being the way she is tends to put people off, similar to what happened the following morning with the 8.y.o. Once she drops the anger and pouting, everything gets better again. She thinks she’s doomed, since she doesn’t know what to do about it.
She just doesn’t realize that she can choose to respond with something besides anger.
I’m thinking I could recruit her 18-year-old sister to help. I might ask “How about you stress out your little sister as much as you possibly can? Push her buttons, make her scream in frustration, put obstacles in her way, make life inconvenient for her in every way. That’s your job, if you choose to accept it.”
Then I’d turn to the nine-year-old and say “and YOUR job is to learn that you can choose to respond with something besides anger…”
Not sure if their mom would appreciate having that environment at home, though.